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Just a heads up

Posted: Mon Sep 14, 2009 7:59 am
by Orasteele
Hey everyone! I just wanted to let everyone know that I may be somewhat inactive for a bit.

My mom's cancer is progressing at a rather fast rate. This past weekend my sister took her to the ER because she was having trouble breathing. Now she is on oxygen 24/7 and someone must be with her at all times. My time is extremely stretched out between work and caring for mom. I'll still be around a bit during work hours, and I'll try to respond to all my outstanding RP's this week. I just don't know how active I will be, and I don't want to leave everyone in the dark as to why. Thank you all for being patient with me during this difficult time. <3

Re: Just a heads up

Posted: Mon Sep 14, 2009 8:05 am
by LvSoulFriend
*big hugs* Take as long as you need to! Moms are important, and so is work. RP can wait *snugs* <3

Re: Just a heads up

Posted: Mon Sep 14, 2009 9:55 am
by silvermoondragon
*bakes cookies and hands them to Orasteele* we understand.

Re: Just a heads up

Posted: Mon Sep 14, 2009 10:25 am
by Jennalyn
*snugs Ora* I'm so sorry to hear that. Don't stress more on our account. You just take care of yourself and your family.

Re: Just a heads up

Posted: Mon Sep 14, 2009 10:40 am
by Sushidragon
Sending good thoughts and *hugs* your way <3

Re: Just a heads up

Posted: Mon Sep 14, 2009 10:42 am
by RikkuGirl
*Million bajillion hugs* Im so sorry to hear that. Just know if you ever need someone to talk to im open, and I hope things get better! *love and hugs* <3

Re: Just a heads up

Posted: Fri Sep 18, 2009 5:19 pm
by Orasteele
Hello everyone.

I wanted to give you all an update. Right now I'm sitting in the ICU on day 4 after my mom was rushed here from home when she had trouble breathing. She's got chronic pneumonia in both of her lungs. Meaning she cannot draw air in on her own and must wear a bypap mask 24/7. She is on an intravenous antibiotic as well as several other medications, steroids, and whatnot to keep her going. Her heart suffered from a heart attack caused by the pneumonia, and is very weak. Whenever she moves in the bed her heart rate drops drastically. I had hoped that she was doing better, and for about a day I thought she was. Today the doctor pulled my sister and I aside and informed us that her kidneys are now failing. We've come to the decision to make her as comfortable as possible, keep her sedated so that if she does pass on she can do it in her sleep. I'm 27 and my sisters are 19 and 16...I don't think that there will ever be anything more difficult for us to get through as a family. After three days without solid sleep and having my emotions so drained I just feel empty inside. Maybe tomorrow will be better, at least that's what I keep hoping whether or not it will be so.

Keep us in your thoughts and prayers. I'll be on every now and then while in the waiting room, and will regularly check my PM's if nothing else.

Re: Just a heads up

Posted: Fri Sep 18, 2009 5:47 pm
by Jennalyn
...*hugs you so hard*

I'm really, truly sorry. I sympathize so hard. Another friend of mine recently went through something similar with her mother, but she was the youngest of her siblings and didn't have that additional burden.

You and your family will be in my thoughts and hopes.

Re: Just a heads up

Posted: Fri Sep 18, 2009 7:26 pm
by Sushidragon
My thoughts are with you and your family, that's a difficult situation to be in *hugs*

Re: Just a heads up

Posted: Fri Sep 18, 2009 9:05 pm
by Janalee
I'm really, really sorry to hear that you, your sisters and your mother have to go through this; all of you will be in my thoughts as well. *hugs, uncertain what else to say*

Re: Just a heads up

Posted: Sat Sep 19, 2009 4:45 am
by LvSoulFriend
*big hugs*


*Sams pile on and give hugs too*

Re: Just a heads up

Posted: Sat Sep 19, 2009 1:23 pm
by Nighthenge
I'm so sorry to hear about your mum. My thoughts are with you and your family *hugs*

Re: Just a heads up

Posted: Sat Sep 19, 2009 6:11 pm
by Britain
Steele wanted me to come and give everyone an update, so you know what's going on.

We thought that we would loose her mom on Wednesday, and then on Friday again. She held on and we held our breath. Today, however, the doctors told the family that she was living completely on the machines, and there was no way for her to live without them anymore. This was definitely not what she wanted. The decision was made to turn off the machines. She passed away at about 7pm.

Please bear with us for a few days as w handle the arrangements and pull ourselves together. Thank you so much, everyone for all your words of love and support.

Re: Just a heads up

Posted: Sat Sep 19, 2009 6:41 pm
by Sushidragon
I'm so sorry to hear that *hugs* I'm still thinking of you all and hoping that everything goes as smoothly as it can.

Re: Just a heads up

Posted: Sat Sep 19, 2009 7:37 pm
by Jennalyn
I feel for you guys so, so much. If there's anything we can do to help, even if it's just listening, I speak for myself and I don't doubt others in the community in extending that help.

*hugs you all*

Re: Just a heads up

Posted: Sun Sep 20, 2009 4:43 am
by LvSoulFriend
*many hugs*

Re: Just a heads up

Posted: Mon Sep 21, 2009 4:24 am
by RikkuGirl
Big Hugs**** Sends lots of love too**
^^

Re: Just a heads up

Posted: Mon Sep 21, 2009 6:09 am
by AsaraDragon
*hugs and love*

Re: Just a heads up

Posted: Mon Sep 21, 2009 9:01 am
by Bright Promise
*hugs* Prayers and thoughts with you and your family during this difficult time.

Re: Just a heads up

Posted: Mon Sep 21, 2009 5:59 pm
by Harroway
I'm so sorry, you guys. :( You and your family are getting warm thoughts and wishes from me and mine.

Re: Just a heads up

Posted: Mon Sep 21, 2009 6:18 pm
by Orasteele
Thank you all for your support. It's been difficult the past few days, but me and my sisters are starting to pull ourselves together. I'll be on and off. <3

Re: Just a heads up

Posted: Tue Sep 22, 2009 10:34 am
by Tervenna
Awwww, I am so sorry for your loss! *hugs* Let me know if there's anything I can do for you, even if it's just someone to talk to

Re: Just a heads up

Posted: Tue Sep 22, 2009 5:09 pm
by Yuiven
My condolences on the loss of your mother, Orasteele. I can't imagine the pain you're going through. How awful it must feel to lose a parent. :( Take as much time as you need. Don't worry about us; it's more important for you to be with your family right now. We'll be here when you are ready to come back. You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers during these hard times.

Re: Just a heads up

Posted: Wed Sep 23, 2009 4:07 pm
by Nighthenge
I'm so sorry for your loss Orasteele. My condolences to you and your family.

Re: Just a heads up

Posted: Wed Sep 23, 2009 4:10 pm
by AranelSaraphim
I am so sorry Orasteele. That must be the hardest thing to go through. My thoughts are with you.